Wednesday, February 1, 2012

that the most important start to the day might not be breakfast!

I've been reading some fascinating books about the human psyche written by scientists. They provide significant proof that what many of us sense in our hearts is actually true. Far from being 'clean slates', even unborn babies take on the feelings and unspoken vibes of others. A baby of about 18 weeks gestation was revealed to be flinching and jumping on an ultrasound image while his parents were having an argument in the doctor's office. I wrote about a situation in which an unborn baby was being traumatised by domestic violence in my novel, "The Risky Way Home." I'm not surprised this turned out to be substantiated by fact.

I'm sure we've all heard true reports about how baby orphans in war torn countries are passive and sickly, sometimes even dying through lack of touch and loving human contact. Babies who are cuddled regularly, spoken to warmly and loved are far healthier and more robust.

I always love the way great truths about the human condition are proclaimed for all the world through the medium of stories. That is one of the main reasons why I love stories. Think of Tarzan, who lived most of the first twenty-something years of his life with no human contact at all. Yet he was discovered to be a stunning, strikingly handsome example of manhood, glowing with health and vitality. He might have lacked the sophistication of human civilisation but he did have the love and care his hirsute ape parents and extended family lavished on him.

It's exciting when science books are telling us what the Bible has made clear for years. Love is not only a potent force, in fact, it's what life is all about. God IS love! Knowing that simple things are often the most important and profound, I decided to make them a priority. When the kids wake up in the morning, I act pleased to see them. (I know some families have kids who wake up at the crack of dawn before them. I definitely don't have that situation with my homeschooled teenagers. I guess the same thing applies, when you first walk out and greet them.)

Logan and Emma are now teenagers but Blake, my youngest, is still seven years old. I might be doing my writing, busy working on a blog reflection like this or having a quiet study time. Nevertheless, when he wakes up in the morning, I drop everything for those few moments. I give him a smile, hug and, "Good morning, Blake," making sure I act really pleased to see him. Broken trains of thought should surely come second to the mental and spiritual well-being of family members. I'm convinced that when a person begins the day with the sense that other people are pleased to see them, it has the potential to really set the tone for the day.

It's nice to know that even when we feel like we're floundering in our role as parents, we can believe that the most vital things are often simple to implement.


  1. I agree Paula. I do the same - always make sure the kids know I'm happy to see them in the morning, and an "I love you" before they go to sleep at night. People and relationships are definitely more important than broken trains of thought or tasks we need to complete.

  2. "I love you" is such an important phrase. I think it is something we tend to take for granted, but our loved ones do need to hear it. Teenagers may need to hear it even more.

    Thank you for your comment! You're welcome to hike with me any time!

    Peace and Laughter!

  3. Yep. Another good one, Paula. And one that isn't too hard to implement really.

  4. We are a family of morning people. We often sing little songs in the morning. My friend recently said we sounded like a Disney movie. Not to say it's like that in our house all the time, but we start off well. I am with you, Paula; the best start to the day is a happy start.

  5. I agree. I recently read about a woman who decided it was important to greet each family member when she got home and be sure to say goodbye to each one before she left. I now do the same since I come and go more frequently, driving Chad to and from somewhere 4 days a week without fail. It's a small thing but I think it makes each child feel just a bit more loved - or maybe I'M the one who feels more loved! Either way, it's a good thing!
    Enjoy your week - Kate

  6. Hey, thanks everyone. This seems to be an instinct for all of us, making me think it could be one of the important, hard-wired things.

  7. I love Dr Caroline Leaf, her scientific research is amazing!
    I have to be careful how much I write through the day, I can do many things and hear and be present for my kids but when I'm working on a WIP I'm known to be lost in another world.


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